"Don't expect me to baby you, remember I'm not the one who got this eating disorder." A person with an eating disorder does not want nor need to be babied. However, they do need love and support and a comment like this is not providing them with the support they need and deserve.
When you say "I will not sugar coat things" I hear/think...
You and you're feelings aren't worthy of my consideration.
When you say that people should be able to fix their own problems I hear/think...
"Quit feeling sorry for yourself."We are not doing this because we feel sorry for ourselves. There are deeper emotional problems causing us to do this. A comment like this will only help to make us feel worse.
"You shouldn't go to counseling anymore. It's not helping you anyways." Recovery does not happen overnight. It takes time and the person will experience periods of relapses. Also, the person may not be receiving proper treatment which makes therapy difficult. You need to encourage the person, not make them feel worse.
If it wasn't for you and your eating disorder, then we wouldn't have to waste all of our time running back and forth to these doctors." First, seeking treatment is not a waste of time. Also, a comment like this would only make the person feel worse about him/herself and cause them to feel guilty, which in turn could cause them to turn even more to their eating disorder as a way to cope.
That you see me as weak for needing support.
It hurts. And sometimes I really wish I knew of a way to hurt you too.
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